I had a conversation with my lovely friend the other day about how I feel about my past relationship/my ex. I told her that I still love him, but a different kind of love. I no longer have the wanting to be with him, yet I sincerely care about him. In fact, I have him on my mind most of the time. She asked me if I’d think that we would get back together – my answer to her was no. No because he’s with someone now, and also my rational mind thinks that we aren’t good together. We are two worlds apart – mainly due to our age difference. Yes, during the relationship I didn’t feel the age gap, but now, in hindsight, I see that we are different. At least we are at different stages of life. I’m so-called at the peak of my career life, where he’s close to the end of the curve. He is pretty much ready to slow down and settle, but I feel so much energy that I still want to do and achieve more. I don’t think I can have the “retired” life at this period of my life. Though he’s now more mellow and gentle (we get along very well), but he’s a complicated man. I don’t know whether he could live with me – and vice versa. I don’t even know whether I’d be strong or wise enough to be able to understand him… So I don’t think we are good together. Having said that though, I still love him dearly. It’s a strange thing, as I can’t comprehend why I still care about the man who has hurt me so deeply..? I don’t know, perhaps I saw the vulnerable side of him that I’d like to tend to?
This makes me think that to have a healthy relationship, love alone isn’t enough. It takes a lot of factors for a relationship to be healthy and happy.. do you agree?
I’d like to hear what you think/experience. Do you think love conquers all? Please feel free to drop a comment or two.
Thank you! Wishing you well,